Just as a tree that has no connection or relationship with others is fake and doomed to rot, so are judgments. If there are no other reasons to prove that judgment, it is nothing more than a selfish statement. And selfish statements have no value that adds to a person or elevates them. They only cause loss to a person. Even if spoken with conviction, if it has no counterpart, it will distract the person for a while, then fade away. So what is the condition of a claim having a connection?
Every reality proves itself through the combination of its detailed causes into a whole.
Think of reality as a hand-knitted sweater…
The stitches follow one another and come together. As they unite, a whole emerges and a sweater is formed…? The evidence of the sweater’s existence is the stitches. And each stitch proves the existence of the other stitches. Therefore, there is a connection, a relationship between them. By following these connections, we examine the fabric of the relationship and understand the underlying structure of the sweater’s reality. However, if there are no stitches, there is no sweater in reality.
If I say it exists, it means I believe in something false.
Thus, humans sometimes consider the false to be true, even without proof, to justify their desires.
If I want something to exist very much and its non-existence harms my interests, I do not look at the stitches, I do not test them, I do not feel the need to check. I can assume it exists even without proof. I can consider the existence of my desire sufficient for that thing to exist…
That’s what convincing oneself without evidence is like…
I have accepted the existence of something, but I have not checked the evidence to prove its existence.
Or there is no evidence, but I have accepted its existence.
There is a person I want to marry; I want to marry them very much…
Well, is he a suitable candidate for marriage?
“Yes,” I say.
Well, what is the evidence?
I can’t explain it or I stumble over my words…
“He’s a good person, he’s very similar to me, I feel excited when I’m with him…”
But I can’t clearly say he’s a good candidate for marriage because of these, these, these pieces of evidence…? I can’t concretize the evidence…
I can’t say, “He’s trustworthy because he reacted this way in that situation.”
I can’t say, “He’s loyal because I witnessed this trait of his there.”
“He’s moral because I witnessed this behavior of his in that case” doesn’t exist…
I have no evidence, but I’m convinced.
What is this?
Self-conviction… Not conscious…?
I’m not interested in reality, I’m interested in my desire being fulfilled. But if they’re not a good partner, I’ll definitely suffer in the relationship and be unhappy. That’s why I have to check the evidence.
Why does a person do such a thing?
Why cling to something uncontrolled, unproven, and without substance?
Because they want it so badly…?
What happens afterward?
What happens after getting involved in the situation?
Once the desire is satisfied and the hunger is sated, consciousness awakens, and the person begins to see the falseness.
And they inevitably face the consequences/burden of having made a choice based on their desires. That’s the test of life, after all…
Even when desires cloud one’s judgment, never give up on verifying reality…
Step back from one’s desires and test the reality and reliability…
Because all traps are set before a choice is made.
And all traps are concealed by a deception.
And having too many desires prevents me from seeing that deception.
If I haven’t had a job for a long time…
And if I feel inadequate as a person…
If I have a weakness and a hunger related to my identity…
If I think I’m a meaningless father, a meaningless mother in my children’s eyes…
What do you think my trap would be?
A very profitable, very easy job offer…
Plus, I have full control over management…
“It’s a great opportunity!”
But is it really an opportunity? Have you tested it?
What are the evidences?
“What the person making the offer says…”
But that’s not enough; people can deceive others with beautiful words…
“So what should I do?”
No matter how much of an opportunity the job seems to be…
No matter how much I need it…
No matter how much the other party talks about my wishes…
It is necessary to set an optimal period of time, test the reality of the process, and gather evidence.
The final decision is made after that.
Is this job really an opportunity or a trap? First, you need to understand this.
Are the working hours really as stated?
Is the job description really as stated?
Is the work being done truly beneficial?
The final decision is made after testing.
Convincing someone without evidence during the initial meeting is merely self-serving persuasion.
You will inevitably experience harm or pain afterward…
However…
You have evidence, and it’s positive… There’s continuity… So, if there’s consistent positive evidence and trust has been established…
At this stage, when a topic arises that you can’t test, you refer to the reliability of past evidence and accept that topic…
This is a test of loyalty…
In other words, here the person is tested to see if they trust even without evidence.
So when does this happen?
In a process where the test results are consistently positive, in a place where you mostly see “no”…
After a certain period of time, they say, “Now it’s your turn…”
“We’ve proven our trust…”
“Can we trust you?” they ask…
So there is a measure of when you are not accepted without being tested, and when you are accepted without being tested…
The person who is convinced without thinking, saying, “If he said it, it must be true,” is not bewitched. It is the person who, based on the reference of hundreds of previous positive test results, does not doubt and shows loyalty.
Do you have evidence that the process will truly elevate you?
How varied is your evidence?
And how reliable is your evidence?
If this is your style of persuasion,
Neither your ego nor people’s flowery words can deceive you…
With the hope that you may be among those who prioritize reality over their ego…