Humans are creatures with many needs. They have concrete needs such as shelter, food, water, and clothing. In addition to these, they also have abstract needs. Every human being wants to be loved and respected. Sometimes people feel that even their closest loved ones do not love them. That lack of love hurts and wounds their hearts. People begin to search everywhere for the love they cannot find. In their mother, father, lover, boss… They struggle to find someone to pat them on the back. Thus, the person becomes a beggar for love and inflicts cruelty upon themselves. Every struggle only drags them deeper into the swamp. The person does every good deed as a form of bribery. As if to say, “Look, I did these things. Come on, love me now.” With all their actions and attitudes… Unfortunately, people ultimately look to the address where they will find true love, and thus inflict suffering upon themselves…
It is beautiful to be loved by people.
However… Sometimes it is beautiful not to be loved by some people. In fact, not being loved by some people is an honorable situation.
For example, a mother loves her daughter. If she graduates from the medical school her mother always wanted to attend but couldn’t. If she fulfills her mother’s unfulfilled dreams… If she becomes the child her mother dreamed of, the mother loves her daughter. This way, she can perhaps show off to her neighbors. When they are alone, she calls her daughter “stupid”… But when she praises her to her friends, she can’t say enough good things about her. Well, after all, she is her daughter…
A father who thinks he is God and wants his son to be loyal to him for life… He loves his son. As long as his son does not try to stand on his own two feet…
The manager loves his employee. If the employee doesn’t outshine him…
The cool girl loves her friend who stands by her side. If her friend doesn’t attract more attention than her… If she can always be by her side like a maid of honor. If she often tells her how beautiful she is… Then she loves her friend…
The liar also loves. If he can get someone to be his accomplice in his lie…
A dominant person also loves… If they can prove their power over the person they are dominating…
Truly powerful people do not feel the need to show off their power. Therefore, those who show off their power are actually the weakest…
Is this true love? Or is it momentary interests, complexes, pride, selfishness, and deviant desires…?
They love us… They love us if we serve their dark interests and fuel their wayward desires… But how much love can that be called?
People run after this false love. They do whatever they can to get someone to pat them on the back. Unfortunately, people ultimately look for true love in the wrong place and thus inflict cruelty upon themselves…
When does a person truly become worthy of love? When they bring those true values that elevate humanity to the surface within themselves. Piety, determination, patience, honesty, decency, self-sacrifice, generosity, mercy, and many more… To strive until the last breath to learn, repent, purify oneself, grow, and become a better version… These are the values that make a person human. The whole point is to be able to love the created for the sake of the Creator. And the whole point is to be worthy of love in His presence.
As for those who are led astray by their deviant desires, they probably could not love anyone. They judged, condemned, compared with others, insulted, oppressed, ruled, commanded, criticized unjustly, slandered… Sometimes they did this by roaring, sometimes with a plastic smile on their faces. Perhaps they could not love anyone… Yes, yes, they could not love. And they buried all those they couldn’t love deep in the ground…
What a beautiful place that is, though… If your forehead and heart are bowing in that place, it is to the One who loves you more than you love yourself. If you can be loved in the presence of your Creator… Then all judgments, condemnations, comparisons, insults, oppressions, dominations, commands, and unjust criticisms become “Burak’s” for you…
If your forehead and heart prostrate themselves in that place, to one who loves you more than you love yourself.
What a beautiful place that is, where the stars shine above…